Why I am a virgin

by Letters Editor · Published December 9, 2009 · Updated December 1, 2009

My virginity is not a cheap part of my life (body) to be lost by anyone just for a few minutes of pleasure. For me, being a virgin means that I have control over my body, which my friends who have already lost it can never get back.

There is a saying that girls give sex to get love, and guys give love to get sex. It is my choice to give love without getting sex. I don�t think sleeping around will secure a relationship (love), but instead it would make me extremely insecure � but it is my choice.

What if you have given it all and it turns out not enough? If a girl breaks up a relationship with me because I stand for purity, she has no respect for me or who I am. It is best to wait.

I hear our youth arguing that God�s plan for us is not designed to mess up our lives. I commit myself to purity. Sex won�t just happen if I make a decision to stick to my commitment and set� my limits early. Deuteronomy 30:15-20 tells me that the Lord has given me a choice between a blessing and curse � between right and wrong. Sex is a gift from God. If you are a virgin accept you are not alone.

Pam Stenzel says that today I can choose to be like you, but you will never ever be like me.

Some people put their trust in condoms, but those offer no guarantees. If you contract a sexually transmitted disease despite using a condom, you will never get your life back. Life is full of choices not chances.

Sex has two purposes: reproduction and to strengthen the bond between two people in love for ever. If I choose to bond out of marriage, I will pay. My life is more than sex. I choose to abstain until I am ready. Abstinence is a choice one can make for one�s self.

Thank you, the Education For Life programme.

Stephen Mokoena, Odendaalsrus